Many times in life we face things that aren't easy to go through or easy to wrap our minds around. In the Christian world, we call these things trials, and some refer to them as tribulations. We don't understand through our human intellect why we have to face terrible things, and if we aren't careful, we can become bitter and resentful of others that seem to skate through life without a care in the world. The fact of the matter is that we will all go through things that we don't understand and that are painful, but if we will allow God to work, He will sustain us even in the darkest times in life.
James said in 1:3 that the trying of our faith worketh patience in our lives. So many times we only look at the pain, but never realize that we can learn from the experiences that life brings us, even through the pain that they cause. I knew a couple that lost two babies in miscarriages, and the lady became so bitter that she completely shut herself off from the friends that she had who were having babies. When she finally had two children of her own, she couldn't completely enjoy them, because she was still holding on to the bitterness of the losses behind her. In almost every conversation, she would mention the loss and the bitterness would rise.
Paul wrote to the church in Rome, stating this: (Romans 5:3-5) 3 And not only so, but we glory in tribulations also: knowing that tribulation worketh patience; 4 And patience, experience; and experience, hope: 5 And hope maketh not ashamed; because the love of God is shed abroad in our hearts by the Holy Ghost which is given unto us. Sometimes we forget that even in the darkest times in life, there will be a day when the sun will shine again. It doesn't rain forever, and trials never last forever. Sometimes we just have to realize that some things are there just to teach us that we need the strength of God AND others to make it through the storm!
The greatest lie the devil AND our own minds will ever tells us is that we are the only one that is going through this trial. Many others have gone through the same thing before us, and many more will go through it after us. Our job is to go through it, and allow it to shape us for the better and not for worse, and then be able to help someone else. Remember that no man is an island unto himself, that is unless he cuts himself off from the influence of others.
Many times in the Bible, the phrase "it came to pass" is used. I heard an old saint of God say it like this one time; "trials don't come to stay, but they come and they pass". Another phrase used is "in process of time". I want to use these two phrases together here, to say that "in process of time", all of the trails and tribulations that we face will "come to pass". In other words, over time, we will all come to trials and tribulations, and those trials and tribulations will end at some point. The questions is not if we will have them, but the question is how will we react to them, and how will we come through them? Will we allow them to destroy us, or will we like Job be able to say "I shall come forth as gold" (Job 23:10)? You and I make that choice, and as for me, I want to come through as a shining example of God's mercy and grace!